Anybody following any of my platforms knows I am not one to talk about love and dating. The reason why is because right now, dating is making me nauseous. I have used an app before, and it was a bust. Lately, I have been getting dms on Instagram and let’s just say, some of you men have been taught wrong and lead astray. The last guy I have recently talked to has clearly been led astray and he is a 40-year-old grown ass man. It all happened on a random spring day in April. I was initially taking a back because he started messaging me around the same time a fake spiritual healer started asking me for money. This has happened before to me with a guy a year ago. A fake spiritual healer was pretending to get rid of a spell off of me and I assume he was trying to get some money too. I still believe till this day that guy was a little scummy. Anyway, this guy randomly started talking to me in the dms. For some strange reason he turned me off too, but I thought I was being a little hard on him. Since I am known for being hard on dudes i decided to give this guy a chance. At first, he kind of impress me up until he asked me to download an app I had no clue about. Just to continue the conversation we were already having on Instagram. This is one all of the red flags started to show. My main issue was asking me to download another app to communicate specifically to you. The last guy asks me to do that and long story short, even though I already had the app. Something is very suspicious about a man who ask you to download an app just to communicate with you. Also not asking me for my number is very strange as well. Since when dudes stop asking for that? As soon as he asked me to do that. I personally was done. I did not download the app and continue throughout my week. A few days later, without any greetings (strike two) he asked me had I downloaded this app yet. I told him no assuming that would turn him away. Unfortunately, it didn’t. He was assertive and I like that, but I still did not like him. We finally agreed on one app (a google app) and tried to continue our conversation over there. Now he promised me that he wanted to go deep and long story short, we did not go deep at all. Now what I am about tell you is going to baffle you because one I am extremely intuitive and empathetic. I can tell when a man has anger issues and this guy, has anger issues. He had asked me what I liked in a man twice. As far as I am concerned, you are the one that wanted to talk so why I we double backing with the questions??? I told him my likes and dislikes. For some strange reason he kept repeating something that gave not just red flags but it ringed an alarm. He kept saying that he did not like cheaters and lairs. At first, I understood why he would say that but then when he said it the second time. There was a subliminal message I felt that he was trying to convey. Now that I think about it, I feel like my Instagram gave him the wrong idea about me. Sometimes when you are posting places and events you are going too. You do not think that would be something that penalize you in the dating world. These dudes these days penalize women for the smallest thing when it comes to dating. I did not realize that having pictures of me going to events and parties would do that. Everybody knows that people only put pictures of things good that happen in their lives (for me it is a mixture because I did post something about the passing of my great-grandmother). For a man to think that I am going to highlight my life and not be happy about is insane. Another thing, I am a single woman. Why would I want to stay in the house all day and night doing nothing? Yes, I can be a hermit but sometimes I like to get out the house. This man immediately showed signs of attachment issues. Also, his energy was very negative to me. All I could feel was darkness from him. When he told me wanted to get deep, I thought he was going to ask me questions about what I like to do. I had to force that question out him. I told him that I did not feel like he was interested in me, and his answer was who told me that. This is another thing men do that irritates the crap out of me. I do have female friends that I talk to, but we are not doing any Sex in the City dinners yet. Guys think that women are always having conversations about men. I guess he thought he was the topic of conversation for me. He wasn’t, in a matter of fact I was not feeling him at all. For him to insecurely say who told you that. Makes me think that he thinks I am crazy about him. The last I checked, he was the one that showed interest in me one and two within the week of me and him talking. He acted like I had to chase him. When I told him that I did not feel like he was putting any effort into wooing me. He told me that we should both put in equal efforts. The main reason why I started talking to this guy is because he was 43, why the hell did it feel like I was talking to a teenage boy. Ever since covid happened men have lost their mind. It is almost like they listened to Kevin Samuels and saw what he said as the truth. Kevin Samuels did a lot of black men a disservice because they thought that when he was talking about high value men, that he was talking about them. Let me tell all of my beautiful black brothers the true tea about a high valued man. For starters, y’all make less than white women on average. Let me make this clear, because Diddy, Jay-Z and LeBron James do not represent the average black man. For an average black man to think that the black billionaires represent them is very delusional one and two after hearing what Diddy has done and what Jay-Z has rumored done. Do you really think that they represent a high valued man??? The true definition of a high valued man is someone who is a pillar in the community. None of these men are pillars one and two it seems like men these days are looking at what they can get out the community does not give back to the community. The idea of a high valued man is not what a lot of these men are better yet for them to put themselves in those categories. Next to that you have the nerve to date like one and some of these guys are not even near being a high valued man. Next to that white women make more than you so how can you provide value to her when white women do serve their community. Also, by the way white women, I do not appreciate you getting a raise and black women not getting a raise. We were the original struggling mothers and unfair for y’all to make more than our men when black raised not only our own children but your children. Back to me dragging this clown of a man, he really that I was smitten over him and was going to go the extra mile just to keep him. I am not. The main reason is he lost me when he was trying to get me to download a foreign app that I was not use to. Just for me to communicate with him. For the record I know a lot of women like to say that they are looking for a man, but I am not a woman who is looking. I am a woman who attracts and if my childhood crush wanted to sleep with me, you best believe I am not chasing after you sir. Trust me oh boy set the standard when it came to how men got with me to. Still to this day, I am disgusted and wish I did not entertain this man. No his angry spirit hunts me and I have to get some sage. Another reality about this is once he got comfortable with me, I am sure this man was going to eventually ask me to fly his ass out and um as far as I am concerned. I am the one that gets flown out boo boo.
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