43 with no kids…. what’s wrong with you.

As a 32 going on 33-year-old woman, I find myself seeing videos of men telling women what makes them valuable and why you are not valued. It is pretty obvious to me that everybody wants to be the new Kevin Samuel (R.I.P). If you saw how much the man made, I don’t blame them but in the same sense. At what point do men realize that their value plays a huge part in the stock they breed? Anyway, for some reason men think women love being a slave and a wet nurse. They think that we dread being lonely and love serving men and raising their children. As a woman who wants children and possibly marriage stuff like this discourages me into being a mother and wife. The reason why is because it seems like with the relationship gurus they are negating one thing which is…..the woman’s needs first. This generation does not understand that the phrase “Happy Wife, Happy Life” plays a huge part in the success of their marriage. It seems like to me that the one thing these Momma’s boys were not taught was to consider how their significant other feels. Since these men feel like a woman’s job is to serve them, now they all are scratching their heads and wondering how a successful and beautiful woman like Ashanti make it to 43 with no kids or husband? It has to be something wrong with her right? You know the pretty ones are always crazy right? Um no sir! The reason why Ashanti chooses to not have children or be married is because of men want a woman like Ashanti to lower her standards to live a life of serving a man her may or may not make as much as she do. Being a wife and a mother is every womans goal and Ashanti should be ashamed for not wanting that. This is where men are mistaken what a woman wants. You see back in the day that use to be goals until we started to get education, start businesses and to value ourselves. I’m not saying that today’s woman doesn’t want these things (I DO) but we also want to be able to enjoy our life. Traveling, going to concerts, festivals and even earning our own money. Some women are even happy enough to understand that being a wife and having children isn’t what they to be. Being a wife and having children is a thankless and hard job that we saw our grandmothers and mothers go through thinking of themselves last. In a matter of fact, it was our mothers and grandmothers that told us about how much they sacrificed to satisfy their men and children. Men need to understand that not every woman wants to be a wife and a mother and that being a wife and mother is a job that require women to put their needs on the back seat. Ashanti looks happy and if she wants children or to be a wife, she could but right now she is enjoying life. Also, if some of you men see women as human beings and not their slaves, maybe women will go back to being okay with being a stay-at-home mommy influencer at best.